Not many of us experienced adulthood with clear goals, set priorities and perfect values. Somewhere, someday, we were all lost. Weren’t we? Someday we had asked ourselves - where am I heading? Why am I here? What am I supposed to do? Why am I even alive?
For some, the search ends up with perfect answers, but for some, it’s an endless toil, maybe even futile.
“Finding Myself” is neither an account of my search for meaning, nor is a book of ideal answers to your questions, it’s a tiny little guide book to help you find your own answers.
As you answer your way through this book's ten chapters, connecting with various aspects of your life, try to analyze your answers. Every chapter has a guided framework which should be used by you for analysis. The whole process sums up to answer one single question “Who Am I?”
It starts with guidelines to analyze your current situation, drawing a perspective for your life. Subsequently, you will be guided to delve deeper into your memories,understand people in your life and their influence by answering various questions and taking different tasks as mentioned in the chapters. Through various chapters, you will be able to understand various aspects like family, friends, success, failure and how they matter to the you. In the end, you will be ready with a definite direction you would want to go, clear about what you most want out of your life, how you want it, and most important of all, what defines you.
"In our minds, our anger is what makes us who we are, gives us something to fight for, something to stand up for. It gives us a story around our character, a spice in the rather bland life"
What happens when you see every plan disintegrate? When you look back at the last six months, you don't know how fast it went by, yet every day is a challenge. Some struggled without the job, some at the job. Some struggled to live with the families, some without them. And once the downward spiral starts, what happens when despair sets in?After denial of two months, anger for a month, sadness set in. Then it gets difficult to understand what we had been as a person and how not to let the situation get the better of us...Read more
You're not in a productivity contest!
Over the course of this long, exhausting and dull lock-down, I got a chance to observe how things are developing for each one of us - specially, how’s our dear cupid doing. Sure, lockdown could be a never ending romantic treat or It can easily become a jail for some couples! From app-addicted swipers now left to the mercies of texting, to being locked up with obnoxious in-laws, we’ve all got some tinge of lock-down taste in our romance plate. And here I am, intruding into random couples’ daily lives, trying to understand if lock-down is of any use to the cupid! So how is romance unfolding between the (lockdown) sheets?
Couple number 1 : “But I thought it would only be for a …couple of weeks!”
Love struck (hopefully), “honeymoon” phase couple, just found a wonderful place to spend all day (all days) together! ... Read More
Help! My thoughts will kill me!
“I can’t spend one single minute without looking at my mobile! I can’t just sit and do nothing, it’s too tough! My thoughts would kill me!”
I always wonder why anyone should be afraid of themselves. Why would anyone be scared to be left alone with their own thoughts? Why would someone prefer scrolling down social media instead of just staring at the sky? Why does the world come tumbling down every night when we are trying to sleep without nothing but thoughts?
Are our thoughts so ugly? Inhuman? Chaotic? Or is it just too honest for our liking? Perhaps they just bore.
... Read More
Stay home, stay sane (and safe)
It’s a fact now. We are all stuck at home (for good, stay home if you’re still roaming around outside). Bored, frustrated, angry, some hungry, addicted to IG and somehow trying to keep ourselves sane. Unless you’re a hard-core introvert or Sheldon Cooper himself, chances are, like me, you are craving for that night out at the club, adrenaline rush at the gym, fried crispy chicken wings and morning run.
After spending nearly one hour,each day, gazing out of my balcony like a prisoner at home, I made myself accept the fact that I need to do much more than feeling frustrated about it. So I have decided to share with you my plans (and maybe you can borrow from it)
It’s WhatsApp Round
This one has been a ritual for me now. Every now and then, our group of friends on whatsapp have a riddle marathon,which generally lasts for about 5-6 days with real MONEY involved (generally losers pool). Try something like skill share over video/photos and have a judge...Read More
Addicted To Swipe
Right. Left. Left. Right. Right.
A pic from Paris. Showing off? With his dog? Too Mainstream! Oh wow! He cooks! Now that is a hot workout post. I love those biceps!
It is a mere break from office, or from studies or just a way to pass time while standing in a queue
It is the dopamine rush to be able to meet new people.
It is the excitement, which one awaits for the weekend.
It is the comfort of knowing people like you.
Or is it our raw hunger of power over people? Is it the mind game of who is going to text first? Is it the ego-stroking effect of likes and super likes? Is it the ability to immediately satiate oneself without the need of any real effort?
It’s not anyone’s fault and no one is to blame.
"Incredibly beautiful snow clad Mountains. Dewy grass to walk on. Crisp, cool air to breathe. Camps with bonfire underneath a starry night - an experience of trekking to 12000 ft to boast about.
This is what a Himalayan trek is.
But for me, well, it was more about survival the first time I trekked."
A Trek to remember
What do you travel for?
Accept it or not.
You want to explore the world. You want to learn about the new cultures. You want to try new cuisines.
The reality: You want to tag the locations you’ve been to on your Instagram posts. You want to post pictures enjoying the “culture” because you want them all to know you care. You carefully place your food and debate over the angle of picture to make your food look heaven-like.
Get blue umbrella in your inbox
Subscribe for newsletter
Live to dream. Live to inspire.
Little Blue Umbrella is a place to learn more about life, discover new thoughts, get motivated and search for a meaningful life.
Little Blue Umbrella is an open book for everyone who wants to change the lives of all our readers.
Life's beautiful, so why not share it?
2 AM. Drunk. Called up your ex?
Accept it or not. We all have done it.
We’re drunk enough to be “out of senses” but yet, we know we are totally in our senses! So we pick up our phone – the number has been deleted long back, but our fingers, yes our fingers – they remember the number. Well if not, there’s this WhatsApp group from a year ago which will still show their number in members list, right?
The numbers are keyed in. We take a pause (dramatically: a sigh). What am I doing? I can remember what all things they did to me. It’s wrong. It’s wrong. This won’t end well.
We hit the dial button.
So what if it gets weird? We are drunk enough. If it goes wrong, we were too drunk. Out of our senses. Good enough excuse. Hah!
And if it all goes well – Well, what exactly then? Patch up, chit chat, be friends? No, Not really. But the dial tone is already on.
"Use what talents you possess. The woods would be very silent if no birds sang there except the ones that sang the best”.
I start my write-up with Henry van dyke’s quote. Philosophers have been thinking over and debating whether good is real good or not. Being good to others is far more complicated than being kind to them. What you think is good may not be the best thing for them. Being good to others is an easy way to define oneself and explore your life. What is your role in this world? Are you here for a bigger cause that you would have ever dreamed of? Just be an honest and kind person will suffice you the vagaries of the modern world. You will ace through your life and even feel good about it. But is it true in today’s world? Do you really expect others to be returning the same favor you did them? In order to be good, you will have to decode the meaning of goodness to yourself and others as well. This is the notion today. ...Read More
A day of change
Nobody’s problem is small, but definitely not superior to others. Even the tiniest one can hurt a lot. And this happens to all of us - ‘Ah! This sucks! @$#%*’
This happened to me around two years ago.No friends, bad job, not accomplishing what I had thought I would, bad living conditions, strained relationships, and the worst financial condition. On top of that, I kept cribbing.
Until that one day, I decided to take two steps- first identify your misery and then don’t multiply the misery by talking about it . And I do feel, changes started there. I don’t have a fool proof plan, I have had days when I deviated from my resolution to not complain, and to give up. But these helped.
Identifying- I remember the feeling that I am in some space where ...Read More